07-13-2019, 06:52 PM
(07-13-2019, 01:14 PM)Warren Dew Wrote:(07-13-2019, 10:53 AM)pbrower2a Wrote:(07-02-2019, 01:43 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: I enjoy arguing with those people and setting them off. I almost see them like parental figures to rebel against because it seems like they want to control me more than anyone. What could cause you to see people your age or even younger as parental figures trying to control you?
As with many parents with a child with Asperger's syndrome, they may have mishandled you.
Their handling would have been fine 40 years earlier, which might have been when they were children themselves. Personally I am trying to teach my children to hide or channel their independent streak since they're likely to live in the shadow of conformism demanding Millenials for most of their lives, but not all parents know generational theory.
This isn't really true to me but then again I'm an old Millennial. In my experience, standing firm, standing your ground, and not budging works. People take advantage of those who budge to pressure. Many people in my generation outside of the specific area I lived in value maturity and not fighting back to the point of giving up very easily or at least you walk away even because many are not used to conflict. Many are also conflict averse because of seeing how their parents acted and being appalled by it. I learned the opposite. I learned if you go along to get along, people can and will run you over as long as they have you as a target in your mind. Your cooperation counts for nothing for certain people, especially if cooperating with the system will leave you behind. I learned to cooperate and be a team player with things that won't harm me and to be belligerent with things that will. You have to be stronger and smarter than your opponents and have a willpower of steel. I also learned to team up with other outliers and other people who disagree with the way things work. Also learned to focus my energy and do lots of favors for and be friends with those who have what you want or need. I see socializing as more of a strategy game than anything. I see "Input A = Output A".