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What's going on with you, part II...
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(06-02-2016, 11:52 PM)pbrower2a Wrote:
(06-01-2016, 07:21 PM)taramarie Wrote:
(06-01-2016, 07:07 PM)Odin Wrote:
(06-01-2016, 03:42 PM)taramarie Wrote: I feel like throwing up. Never again will i waste time on a man. They do nothing but cause unimaginable pain.

You're giving up on relationships because of one asshole?

What is the point? They are a waste of time.

Take it from a man -- Men, yuck! I could never be gay!

Lots of men are losers, professional students, playboys, dreamers devoid of substance, and writers of  the Great American novel that might sell for a couple thousand dollars after you pay for his research (I had no idea that Vegas was important to the American Civil War... it wasn't!) that might have a little high-priced fun attached.

Maybe you can find some fellow with a real job, something nothing but money-grubbing... maybe a garage mechanic or a furniture salesman. He's got nothing to say about his work, but maybe he needs something more than making money on an awful job. So don't grill him. There are good men with no stories to their lives.

Men can be just as egregious gold-diggers as women.

??? It has nothing to do with his job. He has just decided to go to law school over there and decided to dump me again. He has done it twice. Only problem is the distance. Everything was fine relationship wise. I tried south africa. It is far too dangerous. Right from the beginning though he made it seem like he wanted to come here. Then he dumped me when he decided to stay. Then he came on strong again and made it seem like he wanted to come here. Now he has decided to stay and study. Has nothing to do with a "real job" whatever that means. I wanted him for who he is. Neither of us are gold diggers. In fact one of the reasons i left was because of the fact i had become a sort of "house wife" and i despise being reliant on someone for money.
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#42
(06-02-2016, 11:52 PM)pbrower2a Wrote:
(06-01-2016, 07:21 PM)taramarie Wrote:
(06-01-2016, 07:07 PM)Odin Wrote:
(06-01-2016, 03:42 PM)taramarie Wrote: I feel like throwing up. Never again will i waste time on a man. They do nothing but cause unimaginable pain.

You're giving up on relationships because of one asshole?

What is the point? They are a waste of time.

Take it from a man -- Men, yuck! I could never be gay!

Lots of men are losers, professional students, playboys, dreamers devoid of substance, and writers of  the Great American novel that might sell for a couple thousand dollars after you pay for his research (I had no idea that Vegas was important to the American Civil War... it wasn't!) that might have a little high-priced fun attached.

Maybe you can find some fellow with a real job, something nothing but money-grubbing... maybe a garage mechanic or a furniture salesman. He's got nothing to say about his work, but maybe he needs something more than making money on an awful job. So don't grill him. There are good men with no stories to their lives.

Men can be just as egregious gold-diggers as women.

I just want someone who will stick around. His song can be "you're hot then your cold, your yes then you're no. You're in then you're out, you're up then you're down." So true, Katy Perry.
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#43
Happy birthday Kinser Beavisbutthead
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#44
(06-04-2016, 11:21 PM)taramarie Wrote: Happy birthday Kinser Beavisbutthead

Ditto! Big Grin
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#45
Waiting on news here in my small little town to learn the fate of two men trapped under sludge in a gravel pit. We are on day 6 of the search/rescue/recovery effort. Churches have really pulled together, the recovery teams have had good food for every meal. The mens' families too. There has been a prayer vigil in town square every night since this happened. I know that doesn't mean a whole lot to a great many of you, but we are a town of less than 7,000 and still very much a Christian small town and family oriented place.

The gravel pit where this happened is only about 3 miles from my house. I still hope for a miracle for them, I don't think we'll get it, but I really hope for their children and grandchildren's sake we get it. Anyway, that's what's going on with me, helping organize food and background stuff for the recovery efforts.
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#46
I got in touch with the lawyer... and my brother and I are going to get to keep the house while my father is incarcerated in the nursing home. He is getting better... but the way nursing homes work I doubt that I will ever get him out of there. One could write a Kafka-like or at least Kesey-like story about those.

...I have joined an entity that turns people with some writing ability into commercial writers - writing news letters, consumer guides, fundraising letters, grant solicitations, etc. Not novels, though! These people consider novels simply hobbies.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist  but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.


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#47
An observation on nursing homes:

In my experience hauling hundreds of people to and from nursing homes: the vast majority, especially in urban areas, are $#!tholes.

Commercial, large corporate organizations that exploit poorly educated, badly paid, unprofessional and non-professional employees.

I have however noticed that in small towns, relatively far from big urban centers, the folks that work in nursing homes are locals. These locals have little or no other opportunities for jobs because there simply are no jobs. These folks have not lost their compassion and some of these places are not elegant, not especially fancy, but the staff actually care. People get pretty good care in these places. Not excellent, but pretty good by comparison.
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#48
(06-20-2016, 11:03 AM)TnT Wrote: An observation on nursing homes:

In my experience hauling hundreds of people to and from nursing homes:  the vast majority, especially in urban areas, are $#!tholes.

Commercial, large corporate organizations that exploit poorly educated, badly paid, unprofessional and non-professional employees.

I have however noticed that in small towns, relatively far from big urban centers, the folks that work in nursing homes are locals.  These locals have little or no other opportunities for jobs because there simply are no jobs.  These folks have not lost their compassion and some of these places are not elegant, not especially fancy, but the staff actually care.  People get pretty good care in these places.  Not excellent, but pretty good by comparison.


The workers are OK. For them the nursing home has some vocational stability -- no layoffs based upon slow seasons or credit crunches as in factory, farm, or construction work. The pay is better than in domestic service, fast food, or retail sales. One can get away without having to dress like a professional as might a bank clerk. In many places of employment in small towns, the old Soviet joke "We pretend to work and they pretend to pay us" holds except that management cracks the whip.

Staff have no need to put on the cloying, sickeningly-sweet appearance.

If one doesn't have a college degree, a nursing home may be one of the better places to work in town. Management? It's different. It has the responsibility to keep beds filled, whether for a private entity or a public entity, and grab every private asset possible of the inmates' families.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist  but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.


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#49
In any case, you certainly have my sympathy. The nursing home appears to be one of the inevitable features of our societal evolution, where nuclear families have become very small, mobility is such that families don't stay around in the same area together, and medicine has advanced to the point where we can keep the "machine" running long after it has any useful purpose.

Back when my great-grandmother was widowed, around the turn of the 19th --> 20th century, she had six grown children to depend on. She wasn't happy about it, but still, was able to move from one to the other for the remainder of her life, not burden unduly any one of her children's families, and not have to endure the cruel, useless monotony of a "home."

Contrast that with my grandmother, a Missionary. She outlived her two children and her husband. We grandchildren all moved away and she melted down and finally died alone in a "home" at 97.
[fon‌t=Arial Black]"... a man of notoriously vicious and intemperate disposition."[/font]
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#50
Wish me luck. I have contacted a local gaming studio. They are into the horror/steampunk/goth style that I am keen about. They have contacted me back asking for some work of mine. I will get all my work together tomorrow and send my digital portfolio and an animation of mine to them. If they say no I will be asking them for what they are looking for as i am aiming to work for them. If yes, I will most likely be a concept artist in gaming as that is my strength. Fingers crossed.
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#51
(06-23-2016, 06:54 AM)taramarie Wrote: Wish me luck. I have contacted a local gaming studio. They are into the horror/steampunk/goth style that I am keen about. They have contacted me back asking for some work of mine. I will get all my work together tomorrow and send my digital portfolio and an animation of mine to them. If they say no I will be asking them for what they are looking for as i am aiming to work for them. If yes, I will most likely be a concept artist in gaming as that is my strength. Fingers crossed.

Good Luck! I just want to warn you that there is a wave of misogynistic BS aimed at women in video games right now so be careful.
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#52
(06-23-2016, 07:04 AM)Odin Wrote:
(06-23-2016, 06:54 AM)taramarie Wrote: Wish me luck. I have contacted a local gaming studio. They are into the horror/steampunk/goth style that I am keen about. They have contacted me back asking for some work of mine. I will get all my work together tomorrow and send my digital portfolio and an animation of mine to them. If they say no I will be asking them for what they are looking for as i am aiming to work for them. If yes, I will most likely be a concept artist in gaming as that is my strength. Fingers crossed.

Good Luck! I just want to warn you that there is a wave of misogynistic BS aimed at women in video games right now so be careful.

Here in NZ? The manager who contacted me was a woman.
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#53
(06-20-2016, 01:20 PM)TnT Wrote: In any case, you certainly have my sympathy.  The nursing home appears to be one of the inevitable features of our societal evolution, where nuclear families have become very small, mobility is such that families don't stay around in the same area together, and medicine has advanced to the point where we can keep the "machine" running long after it has any useful purpose.

Back when my great-grandmother was widowed, around the turn of the 19th --> 20th century, she had six grown children to depend on.  She wasn't happy about it, but still, was able to move from one to the other for the remainder of her life, not burden unduly any one of her children's families, and not have to endure the cruel, useless monotony of a "home."

Contrast that with my grandmother, a Missionary.  She outlived her two children and her husband.  We grandchildren all moved away and she melted down and finally died alone in a "home" at 97.

it's a corrupt system with perverse economics. The more that it fails, the more it gets.

Smaller families have consequences, one of which is that there is no longer the fourth daughter generally consigned to a role as a caretaker for one elderly relative after another, never getting anywhere in life, probably having little chance for education, marriage, or even fun. If anyone would like that role in life -- tell me. I doubt that there would be any takers here. If she ever did have a job it would be as a domestic servant.

Nursing homes may work very well for people who fit a certain pattern of life. I'm guessing that the worn-out factory worker fares better than does someone who has enjoyed or exercised some authority in life. A former dentist, teacher, accountant, or business owner might have to be broken down to fit in. That was the problem for both of my parents.

I am already thinking about how I will need to adapt to old age. Having had no children, and being from a small family myself I will surely end up in such a place if I do not simply keel over of a stroke or heart attack or die in some collision involving a vehicle. Having seen Parkinsonism and senile dementia for what they are, I would rather wander into the path of an eighteen-wheeler than end up in one of those houses of horror.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist  but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.


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#54
(06-23-2016, 07:05 AM)taramarie Wrote:
(06-23-2016, 07:04 AM)Odin Wrote:
(06-23-2016, 06:54 AM)taramarie Wrote: Wish me luck. I have contacted a local gaming studio. They are into the horror/steampunk/goth style that I am keen about. They have contacted me back asking for some work of mine. I will get all my work together tomorrow and send my digital portfolio and an animation of mine to them. If they say no I will be asking them for what they are looking for as i am aiming to work for them. If yes, I will most likely be a concept artist in gaming as that is my strength. Fingers crossed.

Good Luck! I just want to warn you that there is a wave of misogynistic BS aimed at women in video games right now so be careful.

Here in NZ? The manager who contacted me was a woman.

With the internet where you are is irrelevant, nowadays. If some angry emotionally-stunted losers on the internet decide to target you as a scapegoat for their anti-feminist paranoia your life is going to be miserable. Sad
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(06-24-2016, 06:59 AM)Odin Wrote:
(06-23-2016, 07:05 AM)taramarie Wrote:
(06-23-2016, 07:04 AM)Odin Wrote:
(06-23-2016, 06:54 AM)taramarie Wrote: Wish me luck. I have contacted a local gaming studio. They are into the horror/steampunk/goth style that I am keen about. They have contacted me back asking for some work of mine. I will get all my work together tomorrow and send my digital portfolio and an animation of mine to them. If they say no I will be asking them for what they are looking for as i am aiming to work for them. If yes, I will most likely be a concept artist in gaming as that is my strength. Fingers crossed.

Good Luck! I just want to warn you that there is a wave of misogynistic BS aimed at women in video games right now so be careful.

Here in NZ? The manager who contacted me was a woman.

With the internet where you are is irrelevant, nowadays. If some angry emotionally-stunted losers on the internet decide to target you as a scapegoat for their anti-feminist paranoia your life is going to be miserable. Sad
Thankfully we are not America.
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#56
Hi guys.  You probably remember me as Gianthogweed on the old forum.  I thought I'd take a break and focus on my life before posting here again. I've recently moved to NC due to work reasons. Anyway, I hate to say I told you so, but the brexit vote?  Yeah this is definitely going to be a de-centralizing focused 4T centered around building more private institutions and local governments.  It will be more similar to the civil war 4T and the gilded age 1T that followed I'm guessing.
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#57
(06-25-2016, 08:29 PM)Drakus79 Wrote: Hi guys.  You probably remember me as Gianthogweed on the old forum.  I thought I'd take a break and focus on my life before posting here again. I've recently moved to NC due to work reasons. Anyway, I hate to say I told you so, but the brexit vote?  Yeah this is definitely going to be a de-centralizing focused 4T centered around building more private institutions and local governments.  It will be more similar to the civil war 4T and the gilded age 1T that followed I'm guessing.

Certainly *not* a glorious revolution.... Sad

Welcome back.
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#58
My father's behavior and physical condition seem to be getting better. He has a problem with confusion on facts, including telling some fantastic stories. But to him the nursing home is boring, and if one is in a deathly-boring place one might do as he does. I want to get him out more often.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist  but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.


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#59
I have been given some great advice from the founder of Stickman studios and Desolate Spectre studios. He also loved my charcoal drawings and told me i should also work with maya too for perspective as well as shading. He encouraged me to give a great intro showing what i am all about as well as the showreel. So i need full time work in order to afford getting after effects and the updated version of photoshop on my computer again lol! He said give it another year, to take his advice and guidance and work at what i am currently doing. He loves the fact i am a generalist. Meaning I have a variety of skills as well as the fact he is very much interested that i am an author to boot. He is awesome and gave me a path and some great advice. I will take him up on that and will see them again in a years time Wink don't you worry about that! Got an app to see about getting assistance with finding work and also strode into a local retirement home to ask for extra work. I have been given a form to fill out as they have some work coming up soon. I am taking it. I will also keep persisting at my current job too. I need to get my programs on my computer again so i can work at this. So, it is great news. Another reason why i did not get a job with the studios is because they do not have an opening yet. But he says i have great potential. I am surprised they like a generalist. I thought i would have to hone my skills on one thing only. This has given me a path and has helped me out so much that i am so very happy today. Smile It is a start.
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#60
Well.  I think it was around the fall of 2010 when I quit these forums.  A lot has changed.  I see a couple familiar faces, and a lot of new people.  Certainly there will be much to talk about.  Possibly I can even make a productive contribution!  Only time will tell.
There was never any good old days
They are today, they are tomorrow
It's a stupid thing we say
Cursing tomorrow with sorrow
       -- Eugene Hutz
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