why porn, nudity and masturbation are considered bad??

[pbrower2a]

(01-11-2020, 03:52 PM)weareacouple Wrote:

(01-10-2020, 11:57 AM)pbrower2a Wrote:

(01-10-2020, 11:00 AM)Bill the Piper Wrote: Pornography is addictive, it's like heroin injected through the eyes.

Addiction is a miserable way of life, offering false simulation of safety and bliss to people who have neither. Gambling is a good example: casino gambling is a losing proposition, but gamblers feel like winners as they pump money into slog machines. There's a drug for almost every psychic need -- never mind that most such drugs solve nothing.

Can you tell me what the down side of sex addiction is if you are married to another sex addict?

You will cast off whatever possibility you have for intellectual advancement and above-average performance on your job. (OK, since most people go nowhere by doing the jobs that they do that may have little relevance). You will create nothing while doing sex as often as you do, so you can be a real nothing to the rest of humanity. As with any addiction you will not grow as a person. I have seen alcoholics and addicts -- as a rule, they do not grow up. I had an uncle who died of cirrhosis at age 72... and this man was very childish in much of his behavior. He aged fast, as is so with alcoholics, but he had the emotional development of a teenager. Oh, he went around the country a lot... but he often ended his stories with something like "I went to Kansas City, and oh, did I get drunk".

Food addicts -- meaning extreme over-eaters? I have known many, and they are almost as miserable as druggies. If you want to know what a bore is, meet such people. What they do to their bodies is pitiable; there are people getting about in box stores by carts because they are too obese to get around such a store without getting exhausted. I am not going to disparage such carts in principle; I have used those during gout attacks. Do you want an indication of how boring they are? I never see such a person in a museum of any kind -- whether of art, science, industry, vehicles (aviation or automobiles), or history. Having never been to the Baseball Hall of Fame or the Museum of Rock and Roll -- can anyone tell me if grotesquely obese people go there?

It's much the same with shopaholics... "There's a shopping mall in Dallas and they have all those great stores, I bought this, I bought that"... Such people come off extremely hollow because what they share is empty. I would rather talk about the art that I saw or of the performance of a symphony or opera. (OK, I am a horrible intellectual snob, and I am a complete misfit where I happen to live... life goes like that at times). Religious fanatics? Insufferable. I am tempted to tell those who give "believe it or burn" arguments for young-earth creationism and the literal interpretation of the Flood of Noah to go to Hell. A world in which an anti-rational orthodoxy is mandatory for survival is a Hell. Compulsive gamblers? I know too much about the mathematics and economics. The glittering lights of Las Vegas  are a display made possible by compulsive gamblers. Los Vegas has earned the appelation as "Lost Wages" for good reason. 

You cannot share your life with others. What happens if your spouse dies? Then you are really alone, and having not grown up you will not be an attractive partner.  

I have trouble dating because I am on the autistic spectrum with physical cause. Even my body is excessively rigid, so I don't dance well. But someone who can overlook my faults can know that I know how to make life interesting for the right person. I can tell you about the glories of nature (Tahquamenon Falls in Michigan is really better than Niagara; Yosemite National Park is magnificent, and I can get interested in just about any academic study. And, yes, I know exactly how to excite a woman. 

Your problem isn't that you have too much sex; it is that you have too little of other things. So it is with addiction of any kind -- even if the addiction is classical music.