(08-27-2020, 03:25 PM)Classic-Xer Wrote:(08-27-2020, 01:59 PM)pbrower2a Wrote:(08-27-2020, 01:28 PM)Classic-Xer Wrote:(08-27-2020, 08:14 AM)taramarie Wrote: Whoah this place is really turning to shit. Opening up the door and walking back out and back to animation studies. I will say this. No matter the side, both can and do have extremists. Instead of pointing finger, maybe address ones own flaws and the other side too otherwise it is a back and forth blindness. Good luck America. On the plus side for me, i am getting my green card in a couple of days and will be a European permanent resident as well as a kiwi citizen. Hope all are well here.
Polar opposites don't attract, oil and water doesn't mix, good and evil don't embrace and join hands and that's what you're seeing here today.
Your platitudes are right... but Donald Trump really is a hideous example of a man and especially a leader. Let's start with how he treats about half of humanity... One well-recognized platitude is "Thou shalt not commit adultery".
If Trump shows such frequent, flagrant disloyalty to a spouse, then what does that say about him? I can understand divorce and remarriage because people can make terrible judgment in marriage. (spouse is abusive or criminal... or frigid).
So, how are his ex wives doing these days? Are there any living off welfare these days? Are there any of their children living off welfare or any of his grand children living off welfare these days?
Having seen the effects of the Sexual Revolution... I can assure you that a stable family life is worth far more to a child than is a huge array of electronic goodies, nice clothes, a car paid-for as a present for reaching the legal age for driving, extensive (if chaperoned) travel, and even a first-rate education. I live in Amish country, and I recognize theirs as a world of deprivations that I would find unpleasant in the extreme. On the other hand... they aren't as messed up as many 'English' kids who supposedly get all the advantages. So they are isolated from the really perverse stuff?
Where I live many of the grocery stores have hitching posts for the horses. Heck, one day this week I was actually at a (brand-name excised) drive through right behind an Old Order Amish family that went out for dinner... in the only going out that I still consider safe.
Their world offers practically no privacy. Everyone seems to know what everyone else is doing. For real privacy be in an urban crowd in which nobody cares what you are doing unless it does something immediately hurtful. Education is limited to age 16, and there are no electronic entertainments. Maybe they have a radio for news and for weather warnings... and they now have cell phones. But if you are a rake, you don;t belong among them. A hint: the strip club and the 'adult book' store nearest me do not have hitching posts.
DIVORCE HURTS CHILDREN.
They become nastier people -- more cynical and manipulative. Kids know the tricks -- when visiting the family of the non-custodial ex, make sure to dress in rags and have too few clothes. Count on nice clothes given by the custodian's father-in-law and mother-in-law.
To be sure, some marriages are disasters certain to end in divorce -- violent relationships, one spouse fails to grow up while the other does, one falls to addictive behaviors. Some cultural barriers are just too big for the spouses to deal with -- not that they knew so to begin with.
With the qualification of same-sex relationships, the optimal marriage is one man, one wife for life. So marry your high-school sweetheart or college flame, and stay together. I see a big problem in which some man on the fast track to economic success and class privilege marries as a young man a woman who looks as if she could be a Playmate of the Month... only to dump her when they are both around forty for a new model who looks like another Playmate of the Month. His new wife is just slightly older than his oldest child. Talk about a mess! Former Wifey gets a house that she really can't afford to keep and perhaps a five-year-old sports car that poorly suits her needs. He was going to trade the five-year-old sports car anyway. Kids brought up in such a scenario never get to learn the values of loyalty and commitment. They become helpless materialists who could never get ahead without a corrupt advantage... and guess who gets the chance to join the fast track? Yeah, sure, the talented kid who has good college grades and a solid work ethic. (OK, if you believe that I can get you a new 2021 Oldsmobile today!)
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.