05-10-2021, 06:31 PM
(05-10-2021, 04:14 PM)beechnut79 Wrote:(05-10-2021, 01:00 PM)pbrower2a Wrote: Keep trying. Keep trying. Keep trying. Think of it like selling insurance: you may get fifty "no's" before getting a "yes". People actually make a good living that way.
Let's start with the obvious: many women have some characteristic incompatible with you, and they discover that before you do. Similarities may be much more obvious than dissimilarities. Dissimilarities could be musical tastes, different culinary traditions, and levels or emphases in formal education. That's before I get into things that should be red flags (I am not saying that you have those) such as a quick temper, sociopathic tendencies, pathological narcissism, and bad habits. Some people have big personal problems to solve before they can be suitable life-partners for anyone.
A whirlwind romance that leads quickly to marriage often ends in divorce, so at times you can consider yourself lucky.
This is not the pattern of my life today. In fact at present love life is quite low on the totem pole. This is a history lesson more than anything else. Am now 76 and figured it is a good time to go public as no one becomes a successful ladies’ man in his 70s. And I often wonder if that very term has now become more derogatory.
I thought the term simply obsolete. In my case I recognize that I have far less to offer than I need -- which is to be kept on an even keel now that my parents are gone. I never realized how much I needed them.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.