10-22-2022, 07:30 PM
(10-22-2022, 03:59 PM)JasonBlack Wrote:Quote:If you want a woman who has something of interest to say, then accept that that woman is most likely a feminist. The couples who cannot speak to each other are the ones who get divorces. Feminism and formal education seem to correlate, so it is getting harder to find a wife perfectly willing to live to do the cooking, cleaning, and laundry. Many couples (the wife as much as the husband) want that; they hire a maid. If you want your daughter to do well in life, then accept that she will need a solid education wherein she comes to adopt feminist ways. If you want your son to be something other than a frustrated young man who morphs into a frustrated and lonely young man, then you will need to teach him to adopt to the feminist majority of women.Without knowing what your definition of "feminism" is I can't say how much I agree, but at the very least, 3rd wave feminism on was little more than a narcissistic power grab. Several truths related to this are, at this point, undeniable
1) Almost no one is happy with modern relationship norms, and the idea that the solution is more feminism would ignore how trends of marital satisfaction fell lower and lower as women gained more and more power. A recent study showed that as much as 28% of modern 30 year old men....are virgins. A peaceful society in which 1/3 of men have no access to sex and
2) The idea that men and women are basically the same on the inside is supported by...nothing. Women are a standard deviation higher on both trait agreeableness and trait neuroticism, men have a much wider standard deviation in intelligence scores (same mean, but much more representation at the extremes), men have an average of 17 times the testosterone of women.
3) The new norm of single motherhood and society footing the bill makes no sense either economically or socially. Children from two parent households outperform their peers from single parent households on rates of depression, gang activity, suicide, drug addiction, risk taking behavior spousal abuse....just about everything. We need fathers to provide order and discipline in the house, not more feminism.
"On the inside" means spiritually, not physically. People who express views like yours are often limited to either a materialist view of reality, or they are captured by long out-of-date religious mythology and authority. In either case they are alienated and cut off from the inner life, a malady that particularly affects Americans.
Feminism is not one-parent household. There is no connection between those two concepts at all.
Two parents and the "it takes a village" approach works better for children. But many people of both sexes (including me it turned out) are no longer wedded, so to speak, to the ideal of family, and have no children. Others put it off longer. And some realize that a mere nuclear family is not very fulfilling or very helpful either. Such families were much larger before world war II and suburbia.