01-09-2021, 08:48 PM
(01-09-2021, 06:57 PM)Classic-Xer Wrote:(01-09-2021, 05:14 PM)taramarie Wrote: That is not a cowardly act, but rather a smart one. Some people are not worth the effort, and you definitely do not take on angry dogs. Only an insecure fool would say you were a coward. Generally people who act all macho and big and tough.... making threats etc are deep inside hurt, scared and on defence from trauma and are compensating for feelings of insecurity for self defence purposes. Those people need therapy.
Was it a smart one? You learn nothing and remain pathetic and keep voting for white nights and saviors for the remainder of your life like PB. I got into a few fights with bullies in grammar school. I couple more fights in middle school with bullies from other grammar schools and another one with a couple of guys in high school who were horny and trying to team up on a best friends sister who a little to much to drink at one of our field parties.
Avoiding trouble is optimal. I have heard of the results of many bar-room brawls. As someone with poor ability to read non-verbal language I know enough to err on the side of caution. I don't always see someone about to snap. The typical bar-room brawl involves a fight between two drunks too liquored-up to feel much pain. Both end up in a hospital, one with a broken hand and the other with a broken jaw. Neither can remember what the fight was about. So what is it about? What insult is worth a broken hand or a broken jaw?
"Your mother is a whore!"
I'd rather walk away than throw a punch. My mother wasn't a whore, and if she were -- so what?
I generally avoid bars. Exceptions that I might visit include some VFW, American Legion, Elks Club, or Knights of Columbus... where the people are reasonably predictable. First of all, I no longer hold my liquor well; one drink is my limit. I can no longer drink as I did forty years ago, and even then it took me two hours to get through a drink at a weekend party at a college dorm. You never know what is in a strange bar. Someone might think that my blank stare is an effort to take his wife or girlfriend.
I'll say this about the gay-bashing: it was then that I started to become a militant supporter of LGBT rights, including the right to marry and to adopt children. If I had to choose between being a homosexual and a gay-basher... that's easy. Whatever made gays seem more mainstream was going to make my life safer. It wasn't a big issue until I became a potential victim.
In my case I have a cell phone on me, and it is an excellent method for reporting an overt crime.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.