09-26-2019, 05:40 AM
(09-10-2019, 06:44 PM)Hintergrund Wrote: Trump (I think) was raised in a strict way by his father and at school. But what means "strict"? Many kids thought so about their parents. But few compare their situation to that of others, let alone objectively. Two different people might both say "I was raised in a strict way", and one of them might have been raised boot camp-style, and the other one was slapped once in his life.
I really wonder: If Trump had been slapped by his father whenever he lied - would he dare to tell bullshit later?
Compare this joke: http://generational-theory.com/forum/thr...l#pid45973 )
He rebelled against the strictures as an adult and got away with it or Daddy and Mommy indulged every whim. Whichever is true matters little now. We know what he does and is.
I see two extremes which are terrible -- extremely authoritarian upbringing which makes one unable to do independent thought, and the sort of (usually) permissive upbringing that has an occasional episode of violent enforcement of the rules.
The alternative is "authoritative" which I would have followed were I a parent: children get some leeway for self-expression and experimentation, but rules are always in place and violation of those rules will result in some shaming. Lie, and you will be exposed as a liar. Take stuff from the store and you will be brought back with the pilfered merchandise and be compelled to apologize for such. Besides, you will be expected to pay for the stuff that you took, and you will pay for it with some means that pays the merchant but results in serious deprivation -- such as having something that one cherishes sold for the proceeds, with any net given to charity. Steal some candy and lose your toy train?
There is no need for a spanking unless one does something that can get others hurt, in which such behavior might as well have some pain involved. OK, in nature -- if you pull the tail of a cat you can expect to get scratched and bit. Attack a dog and you really get hurt.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.