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Careers ruined or at risk from accusations of sexual misconduct
And you know what? Speaking about it is hard because you have to relive it over and over again when you want to just bury it, disassociate and hide. But it eats you away inside. And when you tell it feels like actual pain. The reliving it over again. I tried therapy, i had to drop out as i wanted to commit suicide rather than open up to someone face to face. So how the hell is one supposed to have documentation and proof when it is so hard to come out about it and we get so much hate when we come out and on top of that when one at the time was too busy being abused.
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(01-23-2019, 10:16 PM)taramarie Wrote: Oh hell and seeing some of these comments probably some guys here wont believe either. So basically i was ...we will say fiddled with till i was bleeding and yes i was penetrated painfully...i was 5 years old. My mother stormed the school about it. I was cornered into a cubical in the girls toilets, locked in there, beaten up, fiddled with and threatened for months till my mother noticed the injuried and the bleeding from trauma there. So yes. That is the definition of repeated sexual abuse. I am not one of those making things up. Since age 5 i have had cptsd and it causes me to have panic attacks where i freeze, stop breathing and i black out. A few years ago i was forcefully raped repetitively too. Neither i can give "documentation" for. I was alone both times locked somewhere and its hard to provide proof when one is locked in somewhere alone and being violated and silenced out of fear. As my attackers have said, worse will come if you say anything. As a child that worse did come and it hurt.

Wow!  I'm sorry you had to experience any of this.  You're brave to share it here.  Here's hoping for better in the future.  Any form of PTSD is hard to manage, but the complex variant is the worst.
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(01-23-2019, 10:21 PM)taramarie Wrote: And you know what? Speaking about it is hard because you have to relive it over and over again when you want to just bury it, disassociate and hide. But it eats you away inside. And when you tell it feels like actual pain. The reliving it over again. I tried therapy, i had to drop out as i wanted to commit suicide rather than open up to someone face to face. So how the hell is one supposed to have documentation and proof when it is so hard to come out about it and we get so much hate when we come out and on top of that when one at the time was too busy being abused.

The practices of medicine and the law often collide, and neither seems capable of seeing the other's point.  Yours is a prime example.
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It's sad Neil deGrasse Tyson mistreated women. I enjoyed his idea of the cosmic perspective, but it didn't make him better. He doesn't practise what he preaches. But I still love the Cosmos series, and look forward to watching new episodes in spring.
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(01-24-2019, 10:30 AM)David Horn Wrote:
(01-23-2019, 10:16 PM)taramarie Wrote: Oh hell and seeing some of these comments probably some guys here wont believe either. So basically i was ...we will say fiddled with till i was bleeding and yes i was penetrated painfully...i was 5 years old. My mother stormed the school about it. I was cornered into a cubical in the girls toilets, locked in there, beaten up, fiddled with and threatened for months till my mother noticed the injuried and the bleeding from trauma there. So yes. That is the definition of repeated sexual abuse. I am not one of those making things up. Since age 5 i have had cptsd and it causes me to have panic attacks where i freeze, stop breathing and i black out. A few years ago i was forcefully raped repetitively too. Neither i can give "documentation" for. I was alone both times locked somewhere and its hard to provide proof when one is locked in somewhere alone and being violated and silenced out of fear. As my attackers have said, worse will come if you say anything. As a child that worse did come and it hurt.

Wow!  I'm sorry you had to experience any of this.  You're brave to share it here.  Here's hoping for better in the future.  Any form of PTSD is hard to manage, but the complex variant is the worst.

My boyfriend also went through traumatic sexual abuse. From a family member actually. For years. It has hurt him in all ways. We have been suggested by his therapist to go into tantric counselling together as it was mental and physical abuse we went through so we should experience the opposite of that, hence...tantra. But also to explore the psychological and make peace with it. So, tantra can help with that balance of the whole. We will be seeing if it is right for us first.
So hopefully there is a better future but we know that we are healing already as we bond so well already.
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(01-24-2019, 04:52 PM)taramarie Wrote:
(01-24-2019, 10:30 AM)David Horn Wrote:
(01-23-2019, 10:16 PM)taramarie Wrote: Oh hell and seeing some of these comments probably some guys here wont believe either. So basically i was ...we will say fiddled with till i was bleeding and yes i was penetrated painfully...i was 5 years old. My mother stormed the school about it. I was cornered into a cubical in the girls toilets, locked in there, beaten up, fiddled with and threatened for months till my mother noticed the injuried and the bleeding from trauma there. So yes. That is the definition of repeated sexual abuse. I am not one of those making things up. Since age 5 i have had cptsd and it causes me to have panic attacks where i freeze, stop breathing and i black out. A few years ago i was forcefully raped repetitively too. Neither i can give "documentation" for. I was alone both times locked somewhere and its hard to provide proof when one is locked in somewhere alone and being violated and silenced out of fear. As my attackers have said, worse will come if you say anything. As a child that worse did come and it hurt.

Wow!  I'm sorry you had to experience any of this.  You're brave to share it here.  Here's hoping for better in the future.  Any form of PTSD is hard to manage, but the complex variant is the worst.

My boyfriend also went through traumatic sexual abuse. From a family member actually. For years. It has hurt him in all ways. We have been suggested by his therapist to go into tantric counselling together as it was mental and physical abuse we went through so we should experience the opposite of that, hence...tantra. But also to explore the psychological and make peace with it. So, tantra can help with that balance of the whole. We will be seeing if it is right for us first.
So hopefully there is a better future but we know that we are healing already as we bond so well already.

Best of luck to you both.
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Nassim Taleb is right: Today, any taxi driver has a safer job than a politician. Some sexual misconduct, and the career's over for the latter.
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Here's something to bring a bit of much needed humour to this forum. But still kinda relevent to this topic. Kinda haha! Big Grin


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I'd say that

(1) being a lobbyist and a former Party chair for the dominant Party in the state makes one significant, as the line between electoral politics and lobbying is thin, and

(2) risking a felony conviction is very much at risk.

This said, the thread got lost for lack of use. It is still relevant, and as the 4T gets increasingly serious, personal misconduct, especially if sexual in theme, gets increasingly-severe consequences.

Quote:Boise Police on Thursday arrested Jonathan Parker — a lobbyist and former Idaho Republican Party chairman — and booked him into the Ada County Jail on a felony first-degree stalking charge.

According to the criminal complaint, on or between May 16 and May 30, Parker “did knowingly and maliciously engage” in conduct that “seriously alarmed, annoyed or harassed (his wife) Kelly Parker.” The complaint states that Parker’s conduct included “repeatedly hiding in bushes, masturbating, disguising himself with a wig” at or near her apartment complex.

On May 30, police said they received a call about a man acting strangely near homes in the 300 block of N. Whitewater Park Blvd. Officers made contact with that man and identified him as Parker. Further investigation revealed that there is an active protection order between Parker and a woman living nearby — his wife — and Parker was then arrested.

Parker and his wife are in divorce proceedings and a temporary restraining order is in place until the divorce is adjudicated.


Parker, 39, was arraigned Friday afternoon in Ada County district court. During his video arraignment, the prosecutor told the judge that police responded to a report of a man looking into windows and fondling himself. When police arrived, they learned that Parker’s estranged wife lived in the complex.


Parker told police that he was there to scare a different female, but police said they were not able to contact this person. The prosecutor also noted that Parker’s estranged wife has previously reported him staring into her windows.


Former GOP Idaho attorney general David Leroy represented Parker during the arraignment. Leroy told the judge that the incident was a “grand misunderstanding” and that Parker had been invited to a costume party at the apartment complex.


The judge set bond at $80,000 and issued a no-contact order, which bars Parker from getting within 500 feet of his wife.


Parker’s preliminary hearing is set for 8:30 a.m. June 14.

Parker resigned from his GOP post on Feb. 18.

Read more here: https://www.idahostatesman.com/news/poli...rylink=cpy

Disgusting, huh? You would think that political figures would learn from the examples of others.
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(06-02-2019, 12:10 AM)pbrower2a Wrote: I'd say that

(1) being a lobbyist and a former Party chair for the dominant Party in the state makes one significant, as the line between electoral politics and lobbying is thin, and

(2) risking a felony conviction is very much at risk.

This said, the thread got lost for lack of use. It is still relevant, and as the 4T gets increasingly serious, personal misconduct, especially if sexual in theme, gets increasingly-severe consequences.

Quote:Boise Police on Thursday arrested Jonathan Parker — a lobbyist and former Idaho Republican Party chairman — and booked him into the Ada County Jail on a felony first-degree stalking charge.

According to the criminal complaint, on or between May 16 and May 30, Parker “did knowingly and maliciously engage” in conduct that “seriously alarmed, annoyed or harassed (his wife) Kelly Parker.” The complaint states that Parker’s conduct included “repeatedly hiding in bushes, masturbating, disguising himself with a wig” at or near her apartment complex.

On May 30, police said they received a call about a man acting strangely near homes in the 300 block of N. Whitewater Park Blvd. Officers made contact with that man and identified him as Parker. Further investigation revealed that there is an active protection order between Parker and a woman living nearby — his wife — and Parker was then arrested.

Parker and his wife are in divorce proceedings and a temporary restraining order is in place until the divorce is adjudicated.


Parker, 39, was arraigned Friday afternoon in Ada County district court. During his video arraignment, the prosecutor told the judge that police responded to a report of a man looking into windows and fondling himself. When police arrived, they learned that Parker’s estranged wife lived in the complex.


Parker told police that he was there to scare a different female, but police said they were not able to contact this person. The prosecutor also noted that Parker’s estranged wife has previously reported him staring into her windows.


Former GOP Idaho attorney general David Leroy represented Parker during the arraignment. Leroy told the judge that the incident was a “grand misunderstanding” and that Parker had been invited to a costume party at the apartment complex.


The judge set bond at $80,000 and issued a no-contact order, which bars Parker from getting within 500 feet of his wife.


Parker’s preliminary hearing is set for 8:30 a.m. June 14.

Parker resigned from his GOP post on Feb. 18.

Read more here: https://www.idahostatesman.com/news/poli...rylink=cpy

Disgusting, huh? You would think that political figures would learn from the examples of others.
While there were many corrections that needed to be made, the unfortunate byproduct of all the crackdowns has cause political correctness to really get out of hand. Even a sincere compliment in some cases can be seen in some circles and suspicion of harassment.  Very often there could be some misunderstandings which can cause much friction and embarrassments to say the least. This does not in any way excuse obvious abusers such as Cosby and Weinstein. Yet both were able to get away with their misdeeds for many years. Even in the heady Awakening years you or I probably couldn't have. Each case should be considered on its merit.
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(06-03-2019, 12:38 PM)beechnut79 Wrote: While there were many corrections that needed to be made, the unfortunate byproduct of all the crackdowns has cause political correctness to really get out of hand. Even a sincere compliment in some cases can be seen in some circles and suspicion of harassment.  Very often there could be some misunderstandings which can cause much friction and embarrassments to say the least. This does not in any way excuse obvious abusers such as Cosby and Weinstein. Yet both were able to get away with their misdeeds for many years. Even in the heady Awakening years you or I probably couldn't have. Each case should be considered on its merit.

I have never been in the entertainment industry, but if I were I would be wary of any risk of exposure of myself. Good reason exists to keep a squeaky-clean image even in Hollywood. The most controversial thing I could imagine doing in personal life if I were in the entertainment industry would be to marry some nice Jewish woman and convert to Judaism -- because I am from an antisemitic family. Characters? Everybody does a bad guy at one time or another. Even Charlie Chaplin played a serial killer in Monsieur Verdoux. Would I have accepted a role as Frank or Jesse James? A Nazi war criminal? One of Stalin's henchmen? Pontius Pilate? Nebuchadnezzar? Sure! On such a role I would build evil into the character to the extent possible.

But with a modest-paying line of work, I would lack the money for blowing it on gold-diggers just to get some time in the sack  with them. I distrust drugs (OK, that goes with Asperger's syndrome*), so I would not use drugs as a lure. Sex with someone high on drugs doesn't sound sexy. It would be difficult to get away with such if one has responsibilities on the job. Mess with a subordinate? You will be fired!

The problem with the  entertainment industry is that there is so much money and so little personal accountability. If one is bringing money into the entertainment industry, one can get away with much -- until one risks going to prison. Cosby was an extremely-good actor in hiding his real nastiness as a person.

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On the politician in question -- remember the phrase "innocent until proved guilty". But this behavior is creepy even should he not be convicted. Maybe he just has a screw loose.

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Megachurch leader busted -- child sexual abuse


PALM SPRINGS, Calif. — A placard bearing Naasón Joaquín García's name outside La Luz del Mundo church in Palm Springs greets congregants who stream in and out of the church for morning prayer and evening services each day.
García, the self-proclaimed apostle and leader of the Mexico-based church that counts 1 million followers, was arrested Tuesday in Los Angeles and charged with 26 felony counts, including child rape, trafficking and child pornography. California authorities also arrested two others affiliated with the church, and a third is at large. 

The allegations sent shock waves throughout congregations across the U.S. Church leaders issued a statement categorically denying the allegations outlined in a 19-page complaint filed by California Attorney General Xavier Becerra's office.

Congregants at the church, whose name translates to the Light of the World, on Wednesday prayed for García, and some became overwhelmed with emotion, said Anahi Medina, a longtime member of the church, who left Wednesday's prayer session about noon.

"We were crying," said Medina, 30. "Some sisters were talking in tongues. We were crying to God for him to see our hearts."

Medina, who has belonged to the church since she was a child, said prayers typically center on asking God to care for their families and others. But Wednesday, "we asked God, 'Let this all come to light and clear up and show the world this is not true.'"

from USA Today
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Good riddance.
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HOUSTON (AP) — A former Southern Baptist pastor who supported legislation in Texas that would have criminalized abortions has been arrested on charges of child sex abuse, accused of repeatedly molesting a teenage relative over the course of two years.

Stephen Bratton is accused of subjecting the relative to inappropriate touching that escalated to “sexual intercourse multiple times a day or several times a week” from 2013 to 2015, according to Thomas Gilliland, a spokesman with the Harris County Sheriff’s Office.

Court records show Bratton, 43, posted a $50,000 bond Saturday, The Houston Chronicle reported.


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Bratton, who is a father of seven, was outspoken in support of a Texas bill that would have abolished abortions and charged women with homicide if they underwent the procedure. That level of offense can be punishable by the death penalty under Texas law.

Bratton publicly testified in support of the bill in April. The measure never got a vote.

“Whoever authorizes or commits murder is guilty,” Bratton said at the hearing. “They’re guilty already in a court that is far more weighty than what is here in Texas.”

https://apnews.com/f89cd9682c3b4fa6abf56aa1a496f2b3
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