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Choosing your generation?
#41
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for reference this is some of what I can do. You know you can live your dream if you really want it. Once I have had my surgery in two weeks time and have healed up I am heading to Slovakia to make a living out of what I studied. This was part of what I studied.
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#42
(07-02-2019, 01:43 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: I enjoy arguing with those people and setting them off. I almost see them like parental figures to rebel against because it seems like they want to control me more than anyone. What could cause you to see people your age or even younger as parental figures trying to control you?

You should talk to a therapist rather than seeking advice from a British bloke you've met on a forum, but my guess is repressed anger at your parents.
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#43
(07-09-2019, 05:50 AM)Bill the Piper Wrote:
(07-02-2019, 01:43 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: I enjoy arguing with those people and setting them off. I almost see them like parental figures to rebel against because it seems like they want to control me more than anyone. What could cause you to see people your age or even younger as parental figures trying to control you?

You should talk to a therapist rather than seeking advice from a British bloke you've met on a forum, but my guess is repressed anger at your parents.

Great advice.  I'm a bit autistic myself, and anger is easy to generate when you don't connect easily and others tend to misunderstand you as well.  My parents were oblivious, but then again, they had similar issues themselves.
Intelligence is not knowledge and knowledge is not wisdom, but they all play well together.
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#44
(06-28-2019, 01:59 AM)Bill the Piper Wrote:
(06-27-2019, 09:44 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: I mean that if someone is vastly outnumbered in the way their peers think, they can't make a big influence until their peers are in older age and they have younger people to listen to them. Timothy Leary had a 2T way of thinking so he influenced things in the 2T. Ronald Reagan had a 3T way of thinking so he influenced things in the 3T. I'm not comparing the two, just stating some examples.

You are absolutely right. Gen Xers liked Reagan because he was basically like them. The sci-fi author Ray Bradbury had a boomer-like outlook (pacifism, appreciation of mythical thinking) despite having been born in 1920. Tolkien was born in the late 19th century, yet he was more like a Silent than a Lost. We even had a thread about people who don't fit their generational archetypes.

Tolkien was South African, The Boer War was their Crisis, not WW1 or WW2.

(06-28-2019, 06:21 AM)David Horn Wrote: Bob Dylan, Paul Simon, the Beatles: we Boomers claim them but they were actually Silents, or War Babies.

Boomer are truly narcissist, they claim anything for their generation (and the Silents are too afraid to grab the megaphone from these bullies). Whatever you think about feminism, gay rights, and the sexual revolution: The pioneer work had been done by Silents, for better or worse (they and the Boomers got the better, others get the worse).

It's like the Party in 1984 claiming at first they had invented the helicopter, and later the airplane too (and in the future, Winston expects they'll claim the steam engine).
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#45
(07-02-2019, 01:43 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote:
(06-30-2019, 01:29 PM)Bill the Piper Wrote:
(06-30-2019, 01:22 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: What do you think of my suggestion of isolating yourself from most of the world until the world becomes suited to you? I will avoid all aspects of the world that are incompatible to me. Isolation I think is the best way to avoid being forced into a society you don't like.

I stay in touch with people who accept me for who I am. I don't talk to social media drones and PC fanatics unless I have to, but IRL I don't see as many such individuals as online.

I enjoy arguing with those people and setting them off. I almost see them like parental figures to rebel against because it seems like they want to control me more than anyone. What could cause you to see people your age or even younger as parental figures trying to control you?

As with many parents with a child with Asperger's syndrome, they may have mishandled you. So you did not create trouble with violence (except to be a target of bullies as I was), criminal behavior, drugs, or alcohol. You were conformist enough to make your autistic behavior look like signs of being a free-spirit. Well, you weren't a free spirit: you got little fun out of it.

They did not know. They had no idea.
The ideal subject of totalitarian rule is not the convinced Nazi or the dedicated Communist  but instead the people for whom the distinction between fact and fiction, true and false, no longer exists -- Hannah Arendt.


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#46
(07-13-2019, 10:53 AM)pbrower2a Wrote:
(07-02-2019, 01:43 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: I enjoy arguing with those people and setting them off. I almost see them like parental figures to rebel against because it seems like they want to control me more than anyone. What could cause you to see people your age or even younger as parental figures trying to control you?

As with many parents with a child with Asperger's syndrome, they may have mishandled you.

Their handling would have been fine 40 years earlier, which might have been when they were children themselves.  Personally I am trying to teach my children to hide or channel their independent streak since they're likely to live in the shadow of conformism demanding Millenials for most of their lives, but not all parents know generational theory.
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#47
(07-13-2019, 01:14 PM)Warren Dew Wrote:
(07-13-2019, 10:53 AM)pbrower2a Wrote:
(07-02-2019, 01:43 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: I enjoy arguing with those people and setting them off. I almost see them like parental figures to rebel against because it seems like they want to control me more than anyone. What could cause you to see people your age or even younger as parental figures trying to control you?

As with many parents with a child with Asperger's syndrome, they may have mishandled you.

Their handling would have been fine 40 years earlier, which might have been when they were children themselves.  Personally I am trying to teach my children to hide or channel their independent streak since they're likely to live in the shadow of conformism demanding Millenials for most of their lives, but not all parents know generational theory.

This isn't really true to me but then again I'm an old Millennial. In my experience, standing firm, standing your ground, and not budging works. People take advantage of those who budge to pressure. Many people in my generation outside of the specific area I lived in value maturity and not fighting back to the point of giving up very easily or at least you walk away even because many are not used to conflict. Many are also conflict averse because of seeing how their parents acted and being appalled by it. I learned the opposite. I learned if you go along to get along, people can and will run you over as long as they have you as a target in your mind. Your cooperation counts for nothing for certain people, especially if cooperating with the system will leave you behind. I learned to cooperate and be a team player with things that won't harm me and to be belligerent with things that will. You have to be stronger and smarter than your opponents and have a willpower of steel. I also learned to team up with other outliers and other people who disagree with the way things work. Also learned to focus my energy and do lots of favors for and be friends with those who have what you want or need. I see socializing as more of a strategy game than anything. I see "Input A = Output A".
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#48
(07-13-2019, 06:52 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: This isn't really true to me but then again I'm an old Millennial. In my experience, standing firm, standing your ground, and not budging works.

It has worked so far for you, but we're still in the fourth turning.  Boomers are still fighting, so if you disagree with some, there are others that will come to your defense.  And Gen X are fine with independence.

After the crisis and the forming of a consensus, during the first turning, the winning Boomers and the (nonaspie) Millenials will enforce the consensus ruthlessly.  There is already talk of taking away rights from the "mentally ill" and, in some circles, preventive detention of them; in the first turning, nonconforming aspies, as well as any other nonconforming nonneurotypicals will likely be labelled mentally ill and put in asylums.  The neurotypicals will conform because of their strong herd instinct.

People talk about how high a percentage of the US population is in prison now; back in the 1950s, the percentage in prison was much lower, but the percentage involuntarily committed to insane asylums was much higher than now, and about the same as are in prison now.  McCarthyism was a winning political tactic in the 1950s.  Don't think it can't happen again.

Independent thinkers won't be safe again until the second turning.  And frankly, back in the 1960s, there were still remnants of enforced conformism; it's just that there were enough Adaptives - Silents - around to reinforce the Reactive Lost in their efforts to restore some individual freedom.

I'm not saying you need to change your habits now, but I am saying that you should be on the lookout for a sea change that will suggest that you need to change or at least tone down your habits.

Quote:I was taught social skills but more in a specific sense. Specific words to say, specific phrases to say, specific actions to take, specific body language, posture, ways of walking, specific types of eye contact. I was taught specific rules of politeness, how to make an impression, how to haggle and negotiate, how to do favor for others to gain favor back. I was taught when something was weird or strange. I didn't get the urge to fit in but I got the urge to use those skills whenever I needed something. This was enforced by parents, teachers, and psychologists. On the other hand, I was taught critical thinking and discussion was a daily part of my life. I was taught how to use logic.

Sounds like your parents did a good job.  My daughter was referred to a city psychologist because of behavior issues at school, and the psychologist remarked repeatedly on how rationally she discussed individual relations.  Aspies need these skills because we just don't have the intuitive understanding of how neurotypicals handle interpersonal relations.
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#49
(07-13-2019, 07:48 PM)Warren Dew Wrote:
(07-13-2019, 06:52 PM)AspieMillennial Wrote: This isn't really true to me but then again I'm an old Millennial. In my experience, standing firm, standing your ground, and not budging works.

It has worked so far for you, but we're still in the fourth turning.  Boomers are still fighting, so if you disagree with some, there are others that will come to your defense.  And Gen X are fine with independence.

After the crisis and the forming of a consensus, during the first turning, the winning Boomers and the (nonaspie) Millenials will enforce the consensus ruthlessly.  There is already talk of taking away rights from the "mentally ill" and, in some circles, preventive detention of them; in the first turning, nonconforming aspies, as well as any other nonconforming nonneurotypicals will likely be labelled mentally ill and put in asylums.  The neurotypicals will conform because of their strong herd instinct.

People talk about how high a percentage of the US population is in prison now; back in the 1950s, the percentage in prison was much lower, but the percentage involuntarily committed to insane asylums was much higher than now, and about the same as are in prison now.  McCarthyism was a winning political tactic in the 1950s.  Don't think it can't happen again.

Independent thinkers won't be safe again until the second turning.  And frankly, back in the 1960s, there were still remnants of enforced conformism; it's just that there were enough Adaptives - Silents - around to reinforce the Reactive Lost in their efforts to restore some individual freedom.

I'm not saying you need to change your habits now, but I am saying that you should be on the lookout for a sea change that will suggest that you need to change or at least tone down your habits.

Quote:I was taught social skills but more in a specific sense. Specific words to say, specific phrases to say, specific actions to take, specific body language, posture, ways of walking, specific types of eye contact. I was taught specific rules of politeness, how to make an impression, how to haggle and negotiate, how to do favor for others to gain favor back. I was taught when something was weird or strange. I didn't get the urge to fit in but I got the urge to use those skills whenever I needed something. This was enforced by parents, teachers, and psychologists. On the other hand, I was taught critical thinking and discussion was a daily part of my life. I was taught how to use logic.

Sounds like your parents did a good job.  My daughter was referred to a city psychologist because of behavior issues at school, and the psychologist remarked repeatedly on how rationally she discussed individual relations.  Aspies need these skills because we just don't have the intuitive understanding of how neurotypicals handle interpersonal relations.

I'm going to isolate myself in the first turning from the majority of people and only limit my interaction to people who are close to me. I will get my way by finding niches. Also in the first turning, Millennials won't be the only generation there. I will specifically use strategies to avoid interactions with certain people and crowds and only limit myself to those who will accept me. I will ignore all others and specifically avoid them. I will only limit myself to the minority of people in my generation or Gen X who agree with me. The others I will go out of the way to not talk to them. Is this a good strategy? I'm fine with independence and was raised differently from many in my generation.
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#50
I think that strategy will work. A lot of X will have to resort to that strategy, too - as well as a few old boomers, like me if Eric's side wins, or him if my side wins.
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